Sunday, November 29, 2015
humbleness, humility, greetings dilemma : some tips
If you find difficult to say greetings first to others special,especially to those of lower social standings and not so jovial, you may keep your eyes down and verbally say greetings.In this way you will not get offended and the other person options to reply or not. Later if he replies back,you may look up.
If you feel pride and expect honorable mention, what you could do is to filter out the honorable mention as you someone says to you. In this way, you would reduce the hankering for such honorable mention.
Again use passive to others to whom it may be still socially lower status pronoun is used. And start everyone with M, Mr,Miss,Dr,Engr and end with shaheb,bhai,sir silently.
If you feel pride and expect honorable mention, what you could do is to filter out the honorable mention as you someone says to you. In this way, you would reduce the hankering for such honorable mention.
Again use passive to others to whom it may be still socially lower status pronoun is used. And start everyone with M, Mr,Miss,Dr,Engr and end with shaheb,bhai,sir silently.
Labels: greeting, humility, personal development, salam
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
purge ingrained code that is not working
age ingrained code
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purge it. anyone could be the boss or superior. We all are equal and given with different roles with same hardness test. For example, GRE one sit for today, another tomorrow and the question may come different,however it is enshrined that test hardness is the same for all.
So call sir to your boss in office, no matter whether senior in age or gender etc.
Greeting ingrained code
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purge it.
It is not required to greet when you see someone.
Greeting is an opportunity to earn points. Some will take it, and some not.
Again it is not required to respond to greeting. Responding to greeting is also an opportunity, though a little less than giving, to collect reward.
We all are equal , however not all could be friends or relatives or family members. So dont forcefully think that someone is my friend, it should be mutual. Look into the body language.
salam giving procedure
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give salam.If not responded, raise your hand like a fist, Do this like for three times. In the fourth time, politely say I have given salam. Now in the fifth time if still not acknowledged, it is up to your decision whether to continue greeting or stop. By the way, once you stop it does not mean you could not start giving salam again in future. With time situation changes, and the unresponding person may start acknowledging to your salam.
Do the opposite thing instead of looking down in first eye contact, keep it ,then go right to left or left to right slowly.Up to down, down to right,then left,up then down,right. This is the rhythm - right left up down right left up down!
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purge it. anyone could be the boss or superior. We all are equal and given with different roles with same hardness test. For example, GRE one sit for today, another tomorrow and the question may come different,however it is enshrined that test hardness is the same for all.
So call sir to your boss in office, no matter whether senior in age or gender etc.
Greeting ingrained code
>>
purge it.
It is not required to greet when you see someone.
Greeting is an opportunity to earn points. Some will take it, and some not.
Again it is not required to respond to greeting. Responding to greeting is also an opportunity, though a little less than giving, to collect reward.
We all are equal , however not all could be friends or relatives or family members. So dont forcefully think that someone is my friend, it should be mutual. Look into the body language.
salam giving procedure
>>
give salam.If not responded, raise your hand like a fist, Do this like for three times. In the fourth time, politely say I have given salam. Now in the fifth time if still not acknowledged, it is up to your decision whether to continue greeting or stop. By the way, once you stop it does not mean you could not start giving salam again in future. With time situation changes, and the unresponding person may start acknowledging to your salam.
Do the opposite thing instead of looking down in first eye contact, keep it ,then go right to left or left to right slowly.Up to down, down to right,then left,up then down,right. This is the rhythm - right left up down right left up down!
Labels: greeting, personal development, salam
